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Principles of Adult Behavio(u)r.

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John Perry Barlow created this list when he was 30 (in 1977) – I first read about them here. Some decent food for thought. Also, it would appear that I have some work to do…

  1. Be patient. No matter what.
  2. Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him.
  3. Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
  4. Expand your sense of the possible.
  5. Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
  6. Expect no more of anyone than you can deliver yourself.
  7. Tolerate ambiguity.
  8. Laugh at yourself frequently.
  9. Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.
  10. Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
  11. Give up blood sports.
  12. Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Don’t risk it frivolously.
  13. Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)
  14. Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
  15. Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.
  16. Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
  17. Praise at least as often as you disparage.
  18. Admit your errors freely and soon.
  19. Become less suspicious of joy.
  20. Understand humility.
  21. Remember that love forgives everything.
  22. Foster dignity.
  23. Live memorably.
  24. Love yourself.
  25. Endure.

Lists Are Good.

Published / by violet / 3 Comments on Lists Are Good.
  1. I have a decision to make. My decision doesn’t guarantee the outcome, but it pushes towards a particular outcome – no matter what I choose, it will cause some big changes. There are pros and cons to both pushing forward and.. not.  How do you make a decision when both options have great benefits and drawbacks?
  2. I didn’t realize how worried I was about someone until I suddenly wasn’t anymore. It still surprises me when that happens. Like, shouldn’t I know what I feel while I’m feeling it? If you had asked me, I’d have said my worry was about a 4 out of 10.. but my relief actually hit more like a 7.
  3. There’s a HUGE thing happening at work shortly (next week) and I am pretty sure that I should be at least a little bit nervous about it – but I am SO excited. Hopefully (see #2 about feelings) I won’t move into vomiting-levels of nervousness when the time comes.
  4. I still have residual effects from the stupid cold I had a month (?) ago. WTF. The day this cough disappears and my voice sounds normal all day will be a remarkably good day.
  5. I haven’t spent anywhere near enough time reading lately – I keep trying and I keep falling asleep. On a happy note, I’m apparently getting adequate sleep lately.
  6. How long until we get some decent spring weather? I really just want to spend some time sitting on warm (dry) grass under a tree. (But not leaning against a tree, as Coffee reminded me, because now that we have a male dog I am vividly aware that trees are essentially just coated in urine. goddammit, dog.)